The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because NTs see their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because, unlike most autistic people, NTs see their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because, unlike most autistic people, NTs see/feel their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because, unlike most autistic people, NTs see/feel their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self, and they require social interaction and empathy from others to balance themselves.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because, unlike most autistic people, NTs see/feel their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self, and they require social interaction and emotional empathy from others to balance themselves.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because, unlike most autistic people, NTs see/feel their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self, and they require social interaction and emotional empathy from others to balance themselves.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because, unlike most autistic people, NTs see/feel their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self, and they require direct social interaction and emotional empathy from others to balance themselves.

The thing to do here is actually to not talk to them while they are in that mood, and to do talk to them after that personal emotional state (mood) passes. But this is sometimes impossible, because they will actively seek out social interaction and conflict (even while they are in such a destructive/hurtful mood).

Whatever you do, don't challenge their sense of self and social position and authority (ego) during this state, or you'll end up being blacklisted and you'll experience a tornado of an outlash from them at your person (verbal, emotional, and perhaps even physical abuse).

What they're looking for most of all when in this state is for their emotions to be acknowledged/validated (without condescension), and their ego to be stroked.

This is because, unlike most autistic people, NTs see/feel their emotions as inseparable from their ego, from their sense of self, and they require direct social interaction and emotional affection/empathy from others to balance themselves.

It sounds to me like you are rolling two different autistic things into one.

The first is the literal verbal understanding we have. Meaning that if someone doesn't specifically say "I want you to do this," we may not get it that they actually wanted us to do that now. An example of this would be your mom telling you, "It would be really nice to clean up this mess." You may simply agree with her assessment, and not get that that was actually her way of asking, "Can you clean up this mess?" We have a more literal understanding when it comes to language.

The second thing is executive dysfunction: finding a way to get your brain in the right mindset to do something. What you're describing in the second half sounds like executive dysfunction to me. You may need to connect that task with what's important in your life, mentally, and find a way to trick your brain into getting in the right mindset to do the task. Special interests always help.

But yeah, both of these are very much common autistic challenges/traits. Nods.

It sounds to me like you are rolling two different autistic things into one.

The first is the literal verbal understanding we have. Meaning that if someone doesn't specifically say, "I want you to do this," we may not get it that they actually wanted us to do that now. An example of this would be your mom telling you, "It would be really nice to clean up this mess." You may simply agree with her assessment, and not get that that was actually her way of asking, "Can you clean up this mess?" We have a more literal understanding when it comes to language.

The second thing is executive dysfunction: finding a way to get your brain in the right mindset to do something. What you're describing in the second half sounds like executive dysfunction to me. You may need to connect that task with what's important in your life, mentally, and find a way to trick your brain into getting in the right mindset to do the task. Special interests always help.

But yeah, both of these are very much common autistic challenges/traits. Nods.