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A space for neuroatypicals, especially autistic or autistic-adjacent people, that centers our needs. Allistics must understand their place here. Self-dx is valid! No bigots, no fascists (no TERFs, no SWERFs). Message @zuggtmoy:matrix.org for an invite!12 Servers

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5 Mar 2021
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiThe challenge is that after you hear a lot of these ableist views/perspectives, you begin to think of yourself the same way. That's what the worldwide Autistic community calls internalised ableism. This is because if there is no-one who accepts you for who you are, you begin to doubt your own body, yourself. It's natural for any human being to go through this. This is why it's so important that you find people like yourself you can truly relate to, that you find your acceptance.04:14:30
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoi * The challenge is that after you hear a lot of these ableist views/perspectives, you begin to think of yourself the same way. That's what the worldwide Autistic community calls internalised ableism. This is because if there is no-one who accepts you for who you are around you, you begin to doubt your own body, yourself. It's natural for any human being to go through this. This is why it's so important that you find people like yourself you can truly relate to, that you find your acceptance.04:15:02
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiIf there's anything autistic you wanna talk about, let me know. I can probably help at least in some way, and I'd be happy to.04:16:23
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiOoh! You should also watch this web presentation! Hang on... let me dig it up for you...04:16:44
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoi(It's to-the-point, and empowering.)04:17:04
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoihttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdsjSvcSFNQ04:17:55
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiIt's by Jac den Houting, an Australian Autistic psychologist! :D (As in, yes, they're autistic, and they're an autism researcher!)04:18:59
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoi
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how do i recognize the depressing things?

Heads-up: if something makes you feel melancholy/moody, it's generally depressive. If something makes you feel broken and powerless, it's generally emotionally abusive. While you are vulnerable, try and stay away from such messaging/content. Focus on building your own spirit and self-confidence -- on finding your internal balance.

I've personally found that spending time in nature, with plants and animals helps. Beause of the abuse I've experienced, hanging around neurotypical people tends to be triggering for me.

04:26:06
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiTo be clear, by this I'm not saying you need to be happy all the time. Just be real, and listen to nature's balance. You'll gradually find your way out of the dark pit, so to speak, and begin to explore and see the sunlight again. I know where you are now, I've been there. It takes a gradual transition to build up your spirit again. So be patient, give yourself time to heal from all these wounds.04:34:09
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiDo you like films?04:34:48
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiOr books?04:35:07
@falconstinker:matrix.orgBrownJenkineither work04:40:41
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiThere are a few films I've grown to love during this dark time I went through. What genres/media are you into?04:41:47
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiYou should probably watch the Temple Grandin film to begin with: https://www.actvid.com/movie/watch-temple-grandin-full-13878 It's not the most accurate representation, and Temple is a controversial figure nowadays (because of her affiliations/actions), but it is an inspiring movie nonetheless. And it's specifically about us, about our experiences.04:45:43
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiAlso, I don't know if anyone here has seen Stargirl. It's a very inspiring and throughtful film (and book!) about neurodiversity. https://www.actvid.com/movie/watch-stargirl-full-60627 While it is written by a neurotypical author, the book details the neurotypical perspective really well, and the film does an excellent job of showing the autistic perspective.04:49:14
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiIf you're more into action, watch Drive -- it stars an autistic action hero: https://www.actvid.com/movie/watch-drive-full-19145 Brilliant action film.04:51:06
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiAnd for recovering from depression, I can heartily recommend God Help the Girl (both the movie and the soundtrack!): https://www.actvid.com/movie/watch-god-help-the-girl-full-539004:52:38
@falconstinker:matrix.orgBrownJenkin
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There are a few films I've grown to love during this dark time I went through. What genres/media are you into?
science fiction, absurd, surreal
04:58:24
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiOh, and here's a must, along with the Temple Grandin film, when starting out -- Please Stand By: https://www.actvid.com/movie/watch-please-stand-by-full-17795 While the overall story is ableist in that Wendy is not given her basic human rights, the film certainly does a very realistic picture of painting our struggles, our lives in this society, and it's an uplifting adventure.04:58:37
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoi
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science fiction, absurd, surreal

Oh! Then you must watch Donnie Darko! You'll love it!

https://www.actvid.com/movie/watch-donnie-darko-full-19263

Donnie is not autistic, but he is certainly neurodivergent.

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@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiHave you seen it yet?05:02:14
@falconstinker:matrix.orgBrownJenkinPlease Stand By, Drive, and Darko05:03:16
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiGood choice. :D (Temple Grandin is also very much worth it -- put it as fourth.)05:04:24
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiHit me up if you wanna talk about Donnie Darko (or any of these films) -- I absolutely love that film, and I've analysed it to bits! XDD05:05:30
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiAs far as surreal and science fiction go together, it's your crown jewel.05:06:26
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoi;)05:06:32
@falconstinker:matrix.orgBrownJenkini only watched a bit of documentary about her. never really was interested05:07:58
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiAbout Temple? The film is good. It paints a good picture of our struggles. And she is one person who actually made it big -- fought the system hard.05:08:45
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiShe deserves respect for standing up for our rights so early.05:09:31
@kenoiyan:matrix.orgKenoiI can't remember exactly, but I think the science fiction film Contact also features a well fleshed out and realistic autistic protagonist: https://www.actvid.com/movie/watch-contact-full-1851005:15:37

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